Thursday, June 09, 2005

the Gilder factor

Ok, so I live in a house with men. I have one husband and 5 sons and soon-to-be 5 grandsons. On some level, I understand men.

A truly frightening thought.

If I could give you their motto it would be "If it is there, it is to be conquered." We could be talking about bullding a deck, changing the battery in the TV remote, planning an assault on North Korea, or getting rid of dandruff.

George Gilder, in his most wonderful book Men and Marriage (formerly titled Sexual Suicide), masterfully articulates the age-old truth that men and women are different and that men are, indeed, hunters and in need of women to civilize them. He shows, statistically, what happens in cultures where a lack of civilizing, that is, socially aberrant behavior, occurs and challenges society to embrace this concept by encouraging one-man, one-woman relationships in marriage. A novel idea in our post-modern world.

Gilder goes on to suggest that this conquering takes wings when women and children are the reason for the quest to conquer. According to Gilder, prosperity, productivity, and a healthy, peacful environment occur when men channel their need to conquer by providing for their families and, in the process, produce a legacy for future generations.

Think of that today, ladies.

You aren't merely wiping the whiskers out of the sink and picking up the dirty underwear.

You are saving mankind!


At 9:25 AM, Blogger MTG said...

When we bought a HUGE HD TV, surround system, and all the accoutrements de entertainment we had the option of paying BestBuy 150.00 to come and do all the installation.

It took my husband one week and three trips back to Best Buy to get it all working properly.

The funniest part was putting in the set up dvd that said push 1 for english, he pushes 1 and the voice that is speaking is spanish.

I started laughing and then seeing THE LOOK quickly left the room still cackling of course.

Four days later I asked him if it was matter of honor. Again THE LOOK. He finally conquered.

At 2:39 PM, Blogger Stacie said...

Karen, I'm so glad you taught your sons these concepts.

There are too many young single guys who are searching for something to conquer and view marriage as being conquered.

At 8:32 PM, Blogger Canopy said...

Maybe if boys weren't taught to be so conquest minded, there'd be less crime, war and problems.

At 6:18 AM, Blogger prairie girl said...

Hi Canopy,

I dont' think that "conguering" is something that is taught. Rather, I believe it is God-given to men.

This is why Gilder was so intriguing to me. He studied a variety of cultures, some of them primitive, and discovered that it is in the application of this gift that either fruitfullness or demise occurs in a civilization.

It is not an excuse, however, for men to abuse this gift by being authoritarian or inappropriately aggressive. Christian men are called to reflect all the attributes of Christ which are spelled out in the fruits of the spirit passage in Galatians, gentleness, being one of them.

In my mind, a mature Christian man demonstrates leadership and fruitfulness when he humbles himself and serves others, his family first of all. in the process "conquering" the lusts of the flesh.

Oops, this was almost another blog entry itself! Sorry!!!

At 6:44 AM, Blogger Canopy said...

But I know many girls whose parents raised them to take on challenges, which makes me suspect that this "conquest" thing is more nurture than nature.

At 7:24 PM, Blogger TulipGirl said...

I read M&M when I was seventeen. It had quite a profound impact on me.


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